Having Unrealistic Expectations of Our Partner

We wouldn’t attempt to fly a plane without lessons, expect a three-years old to drive a car, or to perform brain surgery on ourselves.

Why should we have unrealistic expectations of our partners, when most of us have poor communication skills, lack authentic freedom in sexual expression, have histories of poor relationships, come from dysfunctional families and lack any semblance of competent relationship skills. All relationships are about us, not the other person.

Relationships reflect a journey of speed bumps, hairpin turns, inclines with declines, sudden slow downs, but never stop signs. You will never get to your destination, if you stop short of the goal line.

How would you ever know what it could feel like to win an Olympic gold metal, if you stop training before the competition?

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Consciously Selecting our Potential Partner

A conscious selection and decision about our potential partners requires delayed sexual gratification, intense investigation, and mutual attunement of shared values and visions.

Before we embark on seeking or selecting a partner we need to know who we are, what makes us happy and what would force us leave a relationship.

If we can determine and identify what would have us leave a relationship in the early stages of the relationship, those insights should prevent us from repeating patterns of despair and failure.

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From Conflict to Rebirth of Love and Acceptance

If you survive the second stage of conflict, you can then be on your way to a rebirth of love and acceptance.

At this point we figure out who we are, who our partner is and how it is truly better to work together than suffer the pain of lost, starting a new relationship and not taking personal responsibility for our relationship choices.

Congratulations, you are now ready for the continuation of more power struggles, conflicts and growth!

To be continued...

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The Euphoric Wonderment of Romantic Relationships

All romantic relationships begin with a euphoric wonderment of fantasy.

Our expectations are unrealistic, our negative judgments are none existent, and failure is impossible. You are in the romantic stage of the relationship journey and your subconscious mind is asleep.

When we allow our subconscious mind to filter through the small and glaring imperfections of our partner, we start to notice what we failed to see or refused to see, what was always visible, our incompatibilities. This begins our fighting to be right, attempts to change our partner, lack of communication, poor sexual connection, and many other overlooked traits that destroy relationships. You are now in the conflict stage; stage two of the relationship journey or expedition! In fact this is the stage where most people separate or get divorced.

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Relationships Are Like Gardens

Relationships are like gardens, teeth, and children they require care and maintenance. If you don’t want your teeth, or if you feel brushing is too much daily work, stop and you will pay for your ignorance with pain and money.

We never partner with people we hate, but with someone we love, respect and admire. We live in a world of disposable products and relationships; an investment in a healthy partnership requires time, money and energy to learn about the reality of relationships.

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